| Location | Lowestoft |
| Age | 58 years |
| Cause of Death | Cancer |
| Date of Birth | 08/02/1949 |
| Date of Death | 19/01/2008 |
| Visitors | 2,422 since 15/02/2008 |
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David finally lost his battle against Non hodgkinsons Lymphoma which had relapsed for the 3rd time in five years. He fought against it all the way and kept smiling to the end, never letting on what he was really feeling, (to protect us we are sure). We never told him he was dying, and he never asked,but he probably knew. Not once did he say "why me" However, this time round it was one complication after another, and several times we nearly lost him, but he was such a fighter and just about pulled through, but in the end his body could take no more. He died at home with us, which is where he wanted to be. As he took his last breath he told us he loved us all , and a single tear rolled down his cheek.
David was hoping to take early retirement at 60. He had worked hard all his life and now what should have been his time to slow down and enjoy, has been cruelly snatched away from him. He went back to work full time each time he went into remission, determined not to let this thing beat him. We still had so much to do together. Every day is a constant reminder that he isn't here. We keep expecting him to walk through the door and miss him so very much.
At David's funeral, the church was full to the brim, which is a testemonial to how well liked he was, and the sun shone so warm and brightly for February.
David was quite a character, depending on what day of the week it was - Mischievious, funny, grumpy, saucy, mad, loud, and more, which was why everybody liked him. He had a great sense of humour. He loved us, his family, we know, but he loved being out with "the lads" as well. He would help anybody in trouble if he could.
David, Thank you for the 25 years that we were together -At least we just made it to our silver wedding anniversary. I don't know how I will get through the next 25, but I do know that I will love you forever and a day, as long as I live. Sail away Dave, my darling husband, my soulmate - Sail away honey, until we meet again.
Lesley xxxxxxxxxxxxx
PS - To all passers by - Please light a candle for David - Thank you x Also for my Mum, Jo Clarke
4 years missing you
Hi Davey, thinking of this time 4 years ago, just 3 hours from losing you. We had got you home the afternoon before but had no idea we would lose you the next night. Time has marched on - we have another little grranddaughter, Rhianna Lilly. James is married to Kirsty, Alex is moving house. - and me? I am still here lol. I've lost lots of weight, go dancing and bowling, babysit and go on holiday with Alex. We are off to center parcs next week for a pampering break. You used to love it there and it will be the first time I have been back. - I cant believe where the timehas gone my man, but I still miss you so much.I've had a few dates but no one special. thank you for everything my precious husband, hope you have met Denise who sadly passed away in July. I will love you forever and a day. God bless you sweetheart xxxx
29 years!
Happy Anniversary for yesterday David. The weather was so lovely, sunny and warm. At least that cheered me up a bit. It's much easier for me when I visit you in good weather. So nice to sit for a while when I have tidied up. Yesterday I even lay down for a while as near to you as possible. I still cant get my head round the fact that when I do that we are still only a few feet apart. 29 years married now - ha I know what you would have said - a bloody life sentence! - I so wish it was!! - The kids are doing well, Jamie is now married - August 19th, and our next grandchild is due to arrive Nov 7th. Lexi is continuing to do well in her midwifery studies and came top of the class! so well in fact that her work is going to be published in the midwifery journal!! 4 years she has been qualified now, and Jamie in the army for two!. Where has the time gone? you have missed out on so much my man, but I know you are looking down on us and you are never far away. I still miss you with all my heart but the good thing is I am moving on with my life now and I am going to grow old disgracefully lol!! - Happy anniversary my wonderful husband - and I love you as much now as I did the night I held you in my arms for the very last time.
sleep tight babe
Lesley xxxxxx
Hello Dave, just popped by to say hello. Debs came up for a week and we talked about the good old days. What a laugh we had. I hope you liked the flowers she put on your grave. She got a little upset bless her. I finally let go of your clothes Dave, just keeping a few special bits and pieces. The time was right and it was not as painful as it would have been if I had done it earlier. This time next week I will know if we are to have a granddaughter or grandson!! I still miss you so much - so many memories are with me and around me. I cannot believe how quickly the time has gone. well my special man, you take care up there, love you always xxxx
Happy Birthday xxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxx
Happy Birthday sweetheart. If only I could give you lots of hugs and kisses. Four without you now. The day before yesterday it was 3 years to the day since we said goodbye at the graveside.
I do hope you're making merry up there, and being your happy loud self when having a good time and a few beers in your belly. You should have had so many more to enjoy.
But I know I must be thankful for the ones you had, because there are so many that have far less than you did. I will be up the cemetery later to wish you a happy birthday as near to you as I can, as I was the day before yesterday remembering your funeral.
Love you honey, just as much as ever xxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxx
3 years
Hello David, I am alone tonight with my memories and a bottle of wine remembering the last night you spent with us, soon to be 3 years ago in a few hours time. I remember that night as if it was yesterday, and always will. You have missed so much Dave, so many things we should have shared together. I will never forget you my wonderful husband, but I am really going to try and move on with my life now, and you must move on to where you must go. It is unfair of me to ask you to be with me, but when you get there, please wait for me. You will always be in my heart and I will love you forever xx
Fly fly angel one,
fly beyond the moon and sun,
The softest cloud, the whitest dove,
way past heaven and above.
Past the planets and the stars
leave this heartless world of ours,
escape the hurt, the sadness and pain
and fly again.
Your endless journey has begun,
So take your love my special one,
and cross over to the other shore,
find eternal peace for evermore,
The memories I cherish so bittersweet
wait for me until we meet.
Fly, fly i'll be alright,
your soul is free, so take your flight,
be on your way, dont wait for me,
journey on, your soul is free,
Above the universe you'll climb,
untill there is no meaning of time,
the moon will rise, the sun will set,
but I won't forget.
Fly fly angel one,
go on now, your job is done,
Fly to where the angels sing
where there is endless love above anything,
Fly away, the time is right,
go, now and find the light.
I'm letting you go little by lttle my man, but my memories will be with me forever. I LOVE YOU XXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXX
HAPPY NEW YEAR 2011
Hello Dave, well we are now into another year! I do not know where last year went! I am now moving forward, got lots of things done in the house,and tonight I saw the new year in with an old friend of yours, so for the first time since you left us, I was not alone at this time. The next month or so is a difficult time, the anniversary of your death, the funeral, your birthday and valentines day, and we will shed a tear as always, but now more often than not, something funny you said or did pops up and we all laugh through our tears. I stilll miss you sweetheart, but I am not in pain any more, and I have made the decision to part with your clothes soon. That will be another milestone. I don't know what lies ahead for me. I thought I could never ever be happy or love again, but now, who knows?. Our lives are mapped out for us I believe, so watch this space my man.
All my love as always, Lesley xxxxxx
Hi Honey,
Wel another milestone is here. Exactly two and a half years today since you left us. I can't believe it is thatlong - seems like yesterday. I went to the cemetery today, and laid some yellow roses like those that were in my wedding bouquet.
David, some days are so hard to get through, I think I am moving on and then I see your face in my mind, as clear as anything and I cant believe you are really gone. I truly believe you never really get over losing the love of your life, and that truly is what you are, though I know now, how much I took it all for granted.
Some days I dont even want to move on, because I dont think its fair for me to do it without you by my side. How can I enjoy the rest of my life David?, How can I go on to to all te things we wanted to do, knowing that you are not with me to enjoy it too?? I was robbed Davey, but you were robbed of so much, our children, our granddaughter, retirement, and us growing old disgracefully together. The children too have missed out on so much. I love you as much as ever my man, and you know I always will, whatever happens in the future. I will never, ever, forget our special bond, throught the hard times, throug the sad times, through the difficult times, we were still there, together, through thick and thin. and in my heart that is how it will remain, for a part of you will always be locked inside.
I love you David Gray, and tonight I am hurting so very much.
Nite - nite sweetheart, Love you foreverxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxx
Hello David, well life has moved on. I am still living in our house, I still have the dogs, and I stil have my job. We sill miss you so much and you are always cropping up in our conversations. Th children are doing well. Jimy is now based down in wiltshire, training all finished. He has done us proud, and he loves it. The down side is he will go to Afghanistan in March. Promise me you will walk beside him every day Dave, dont leave him for a minute. Lexi is still doing well as a community midwife, she has her own caseload and does clinics as well as home births. However, she is now thiking of going into intelligence in the RAF - How can we be even ore proud than we are already!!. She is working on getting up her fitness levels, Layla louise, little miss chatty is thriving, She would make you melt dave absoltley gorgeous! - and there's me, still plodding on, going out more, lost some weight so looking better. I am laughing a lot more Dave - I know you'd want that - stil missing you like crazy. Still now sure where I'm going with the rest of my life, but it is easier now, - but oh, I still miss you! and still cant part with your clothes ! - Thankyou David, for all that you did for me, I will treasure the memories always. God bless you honey, and if you can find away, come back and visit me. Love you always, Lesleyxxxx xxxxxxx
Hello David, Just popped by to say hi. I have a week off work so will be up to tidy up some time this week. We all still miss you honey. Your name is always cropping up in conversation, fond memories of the things you did or said that made us laugh, as opposed to the sad times gone by. Slowly our hearts are mending Davey, though mine will never heal completely. As promised, I have told our Granddaughter Layla about you. She knows who you are and kisses your photograph. She is absolutely beautiful.
Love you always my man
Lesley xxxxx
I LOVE YOU
HAPPY VALENTINES DAY XXXX
Hello Sweetheart, here I am again - I seem to be here a lot at this time of year - a busy time one way or another - well today is the day I would love to have received a dozen red roses and enjoyed one of your gorgeous meals and a good few glasses of wine and just been alone together. Do you remember those times Dave, before we had the kids? Then it seemed we never quite found the time, or maybe our love was so deep we didn't need to do it anymore?
All I know is that had you got better, I would have done it all again - I would have made so much effort for you Dave - in fact I probably would have got on your nerves!! but oh how I wish I could make all those special magic moments again - now I have to re-live the ones I have in my head - treasured memories that will stay with me forever.
MY DARLING I LOVE YOU AND MISS YOU SO MUCH AND ALWAYS WILL - LOVE YOU FOREVER MY SPECIAL VALENTINE XXXXXXXXX
YOUR SPECIAL SWEETHEART - LESLEY XXX
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